Carolann M. Aschoff, P.C.

Divorce or not? How to know if it is the right thing to do

Older married couples may be quick to tell younger couples that marriage is not all moonlight and roses. The fact of the matter is that every marriage goes through good times and bad times. In some cases it is possible to work through the rougher spots -sometimes with professional help. The main thing is that if a couple tried to work things out but decide on divorce, they would be able to say they really tried.

After trying to work things out, a New Jersey couple may decide on a separation while working on their problems. Experts advise that during separation a couple be honest about the reasons why they are separating, clearly communicate before and during the separation, and stay focused on the goals they are working towards to save the marriage. If couples stay committed to saving their marriage, a separation can help rebuild the marriage.

It is also true that there are times where the marital problems are just too severe and no solutions can be found. Then divorce is the only option. Cases of emotional or physical abuse or repetitive infidelity are good examples of when divorce may be the clear cut option. It is important to keep in mind that respect for all involved should be attempted at all times.

The fact is that conflict will invariably arise as it is very seldom that both spouses decide on divorce together. The spouse, who did not take the initial step to file for divorce may feel emotionally hurt and even angry. It is precisely for this reason that the advice of a New Jersey family law attorney will prove invaluable as it may relieve some of the emotional strain which someone may experience.              

Source:, "Do You Know When to Divorce?", Cathy Meyer, Accessed on Jan. 29, 2018

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