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How to prepare children for a divorce

Sometimes divorce is the best, if not only, option for a couple in New Jersey to move forward with their own lives. This is not an easy reality to accept, particularly when considering how this will affect other important elements of your life. As a parent, a major priority to consider is the wellbeing of any children in the family.

How do parents prepare to tell their children about an upcoming divorce? What can you say and do to make this process as painless and simple as possible for the kids?

Family violence over a divorce issue

Ending a marriage can turn life upside down in many ways, and this is especially true for some unfortunate people who have been subjected to family violence or threats of violence. In Jersey City and across the state of New Jersey, those who are going through a divorce or struggling with post-divorce matters such as child support payments or custody and visitation may experience stress, depression or even anger. Sadly, these strong emotions can be so severe that they push someone to carry out an act of violence or threaten to harm someone, and victims need to take action swiftly.

If you are a parent, it is pivotal for you to do all you can to protect your child. Moreover, you may be a non-custodial parent but you could worry about the well-being of your child because you believe that their other parent is mistreating them or you have received threats involving your child. It is extremely important to take family violence and threats seriously and identify the proper course of action. For example, abuse may have an impact on child custody.

Discussing a custody dispute with kids

For parents, family law can be a tough subject. From mentioning the idea of a divorce to your children to adjusting to changes following a custody ruling, there are many ways in which family law can be tricky. Custody disputes can be particularly challenging, and many parents may have an even harder time dealing with these issues during the back-to-school season. However, it is crucial to make sure that you do all you can to help your child with this transition.

Kids may have a variety of questions regarding a custody dispute. For example, they may wonder why the dispute is even happening in the first place, or they could be unsure of how their future will be affected by the outcome of a dispute. You should try to answer their questions thoroughly, since doing so could give them some peace of mind. Moreover, you should try to make them know that they will still be loved, regardless of the end result of a custody dispute.

Filing for divorce in the limelight

Those who have a very high net worth may have a more complex divorce for various reasons, especially those which are financial in nature. With that being said, the end of a marriage can also be tricky for those moving forward with a high asset divorce due to public attention. Sometimes, people in this position have to deal with a high-profile divorce that is highly publicized in newspapers, magazines, social media platforms and countless websites. It is vital to approach your divorce properly if you expect to face some of these challenges. At our New Jersey law office, we are well aware of the hurdles that some couples experience in this regard.

First, it is important to stay focused on your divorce regardless of what you read in the news or see people say online. Unfortunately, gossip can spread and can also serve as a source of distraction, at a time when there may be much at stake. Outside of financial concerns, there are many other aspects of the divorce process which can be even more difficult when a couple's divorce receives a great deal of attention, such as the outcome of a dispute over child custody.

Additional concerns surrounding high asset divorce

We know that for any couple, divorce can be tough, regardless of their financial circumstances. With this being said, some couples have it especially hard when they decide to bring their marriage to an end. Not only do couples who have children sometimes have difficulties during divorce (child support payments, custody disputes, etc.), but the financial considerations concerning the divorce process can be particularly tough for those with a high net worth. If you are preparing for a high asset divorce, it is vital to go over the ins and outs of how this major change could affect you financially.

Property division is often a major hurdle for those going through a high net worth divorce, as well as spousal support payments, child support and adjusting to life without one's spouse. For those with significant assets, these issues can be particularly complex. For example, someone who runs a business may be unsure of the different ways in which their decision to go ahead with a divorce will impact the future of their company and those who work for them. Moreover, some people who go through a high asset divorce are famous or receive a lot of attention in their local community, which can add even more stress to the entire process.

Financial challenges associated with family law issues

Those who are going through a variety of family law matters may face various hurdles, whether they are struggling with strong emotions such as depression or anger or they lose a custody dispute. However, the financial side of divorce can be especially difficult for many people to work through and there are a number of ways in which divorce can affect one’s finances.

For starters, the way in which property is divided during a divorce can have a huge impact on both parties. Marital property includes financial accounts, real estate, and other assets and can completely change a person’s outlook on the future. There are many other divorce-related financial concerns, such as alimony payments and child support. Moreover, adjusting to life as a single person can be problematic for some people, financially speaking and in other ways.

Should your divorce team include valuation experts?

You and your spouse have quite a bit of personal property in New Jersey that you have spent a pretty penny on over the years. Now that you are divorcing, you have each made a list of the items that you particularly want, and fortunately, these don't overlap much.

Since it appears you agree, should you bother with getting a professional valuation?

Managing your emotions during a dispute over custody

We have covered many different concerns related to child custody cases, such as the potential impact a dispute may have on a child. However, there are far more issues to consider if you are preparing for divorce, are in the middle of ending your marriage, or have already divorced and are facing custody-related challenges. For example, the emotional toll of a custody dispute may be especially tough for a variety of reasons and it is crucial to make sure that you handle these feelings appropriately. Unfortunately, some parents have allowed their emotions to get the best of them and adversely affect their case.

You may be angry, depressed or struggling with intense anxiety during a custody dispute. After all, when the custody of your child and your ability to spend time with them is at stake, working through the situation can be especially difficult from an emotional point of view. However, this is exactly why it is so important for you to do all you can to make a favorable end result more likely. Managing your stress and finding ways to combat depression and lessen other negative emotions is crucial. Whether you pick up a new hobby or find peace of mind by closely reviewing your case and responsibilities, there are different ways parents address these emotions.

Is it possible to mediate a high-conflict divorce?

If you are getting divorced, alternative disputes resolution methods like mediation can be beneficial for many reasons: they can be faster than litigation, not to mention less expensive and more peaceful.

However, too many people assume that mediation can't or won't work for their situation. People in high-conflict divorces often think this, but readers should understand that mediation can still work in these situations.

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