New Jersey law allows you to get a divorce for any reason. However, it doesn’t mean that your spouse has to agree. It’s possible that your partner will actively take steps to draw out the divorce process. Fortunately, there are things that you may be able to do in an effort to get out of your relationship in an amicable and timely manner.
Stay firm
Your spouse may try to regale you with tales of all the fun things that you two did together as a couple. Alternatively, your partner may try to shame you into staying in the relationship or take other steps in an effort to pressure you into changing your mind.
However, it’s important to remember that the decision is yours alone to make. It may be easier to deal with your partner’s reaction if you have plans to leave home or have a support system that you can count on if you’re feeling unsure of yourself.
Consider counseling
Going to couples counseling may provide you and your spouse with an opportunity to process potentially complex emotions in a safe and healthy manner. Although going to counseling won’t necessarily save the marriage, it may help your spouse understand where you’re coming from and acknowledge that a divorce is coming.
File the paperwork
If you meet all of the requirements, don’t delay in filing the paperwork. If your spouse still won’t engage in the process of dissolving the marriage, a judge will find in your favor by default. A child support and custody order may also be entered whether your spouse wants to end the marriage or not.
Ending a marriage is rarely easy even if you or your spouse knows that it may be the best decision.