“Broken family” isn’t an uncommon phrase to describe New Jersey families that are estranged or otherwise distant from each other. Broken families can also refer to families that have gone through divorce or legal separations – as the family is now seemingly split in two.
While sad sounding, “broken families” are a lot more common than one might think. Divorce is very common, but that doesn’t necessarily mean your family is broken.
Reasons for estrangement or divorce
When we think about divorce within families, we most often think of the kids that are impacted. But divorce can drive a wedge between family members of all ages, especially if it’s a messy one.
Emotions are already running high during a divorce, but odds are things were already rough before filing the paperwork. Couples get divorced for many reasons, including:
• Mental health issues that cause couples to drift apart
• Differing beliefs or values
• Difficult in-laws
• A breakdown in communication
Oftentimes, the behaviors or things that caused one party to file for divorce tend to make themselves very apparent after the paperwork’s been presented. For example, if you’re divorcing your partner due to a lack of communication and willingness to apologize, you might notice them stonewalling you more than ever.
Coping with the distance
Of course, reconciliation is out of the question if they’re divorcing due to abuse or similar circumstances. But for many, it might be worth ending on amicable terms with your partner – for the sake of kids, social circles, and emotional health. If this is your goal, it’s important to consider things such as mediation.
Persons going through a divorce should consider seeking therapy – both solo and with their partner – to get closure in the relationship. There are also professional mediation services that you can seek out during the divorce process to help ease tensions.