If there is any chance to make your divorce process go as smoothly as possible, you should explore it. Fortunately, New Jersey law allows couples various options to get a divorce without stepping into a courtroom. One such alternative is mediation. If you are taking this route, here are some essential tips you could use to have a successful divorce mediation.
Pick the right mediator
Mediation sessions are led by a neutral third party who is trained to help couples come to a resolution on the divorce issues that they are facing. You will need to do your research to find credible mediators in your area. You can start by asking your divorce attorney to recommend a few. Make an appointment and talk to each of them to see if they are the right fit.
Prepare for mediation sessions
Take some time to think about what you want to achieve through mediation and what your goals are. Know your rights and responsibilities and gather all the relevant information you may need during the process, such as your financial documents.
Keep an open mind
Mediation is different from the court, where you have to fight for what you believe is rightfully yours. Here, you will need to come to terms with your ex on how to divide your assets and deal with your children (if you have them). Thus, it’s only fitting to keep an open mind to get your ex-partner’s perspective on all the issues you want to resolve. You may need to compromise, but in the end you could end up with an agreement that works for all.
Many people prefer mediation as a way to get a divorce because it is private, fast, gives you more control over the outcome, and is relatively cheaper than other alternatives. But, you should avoid it if there was a history of domestic violence in your marriage, your estranged spouse is unwilling to participate, or you suspect them to be hiding some assets from you.