If you share a child with a former partner, you will likely need to work with that person to raise that son or daughter. Although it can be frustrating to work with your child’s other parent, there are actions you can take to make it easier to do what’s best for your kid.
Keep the lines of communication open
It’s important that you talk to your former partner about any issues related to your child in a timely, open and honest manner. If it’s not practical to have physical meetings with this individual, conversations may be conducted by email or text message. In many cases, effective communication can prevent a misunderstanding from becoming a legitimate fight that leads to your lawyer’s office.
Take advantage of your time away from the kids
At first, a shared child custody plan may feel like a punishment. However, you should realize that it provides you with an opportunity to regain control over your life. Spending time apart from your children allows you to pursue a degree, go out to dinner with friend you haven’t seen in a while or engage in a new hobby. It may allow you to travel, put in more time at work or do other things that aren’t possible when the kids are around.
Realize that your former partner will likely move on
It’s possible that you’ll remain on good terms with your child’s other parent despite the end of your romantic relationship with that person. However, it’s important to keep in mind that he or she will likely find a new significant other. When this happens, it’s important that you do your best to be friendly toward this individual.
Generally speaking, children do better when they have both parents in their lives. Therefore, you should expect your former spouse or partner to have custody or visitation rights to your son or daughter. If you have any concerns about the structure of a parenting plan, you are encouraged to communicate those concerns in a timely manner.