Carolann M. Aschoff, P.C.

Child custody: Tips to help children cope

Most people do not want to hurt their children and do everything possible for their benefit. Unfortunately, when New Jersey parents decide to divorce children are affected negatively in some way or another. This is why it is important to ensure that the child custody arrangements focus on protecting the best interests of the children involved.

Divorce can disrupt the lives of the children involved, especially when relocation is in the cards. Parents disagreeing about custody or related manners may make children feel responsible for the problems their parents are confronting. Making children feel secure can lessen the negative effects of divorce. Here are a few mays to help ensure children feel secure in the midst of a divorce.

Make sure that the children's regular routine is kept to as far as possible. Kids find comfort in their daily schedule and keeping to it will help them feel as if things are staying as they know it. Secondly, it is a well-known fact that people take comfort in what is familiar to them. Children are no different and by giving them the choice of which cherished items they would like to have at which house can help make the transition easier.

A third tip is to create a space for children in each home so that they feel welcome and can call it their own. Parents should always keep the problems between them to themselves. Children should not be burdened with adult issues. And always keep in mind that kids need both tender love and care, but they also discipline. Normality and consistency, while knowing both parents are always there for them, create feelings of security.

It is not always easy to know what would be in the best interest of children in the midst of a divorce. Parents in New Jersey contemplating divorce may want to consider all the different possibilities when discussing child custody with their divorce lawyers.  By entertaining different options to ensure their children's best interests, doors can be opened that can reduce the negative impact a divorce may have on any children involved.

Source:, "6 tips to provide child support divorce," Accessed on Aug.30, 2017

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